No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

This is a book that has had a huge impact on me after the first reading - I am about to start reading again (as advised by the author) The astonishing thing about this book is that it in every page the author seems to know me personally. I kept thinking 'that's me - I do that!' At first it was a bit scary and then hugely reassuring to know that my outook on life was so well understood and so commonly represented by millions of men around the world. Dr Glover takes apart the myth that the world today (especially women) want and respect 'nice guys'. Let's be clear, this book does not advocate being a jerk. It is not about being horrible, nasty, dumping on others or any other negative view that might spring to mind with this title. The author agonised a bit over the title and it has probably put a few off buying it but the thing is that Dr Glover explains in depth the issues of the 'nice guy' and so he is being real to himself and his readers by sticking to the title. If you are the sort of person who belives that others come first, that it is selfish to seek anything for yourself, that it is better to 'settle' than get what is your right - the right to achieve the most happiness that you can in this short life, then this is for you. So this is a book in two parts (albeit that they thread together). It points out common traits and behaviors, then it tells you why (including a history lesson that is very revealing) and then it gives you some great pointers about turning things around. You will also find out that Dr Glover has spoken to many women on this subject and they simply endorse the views that he talks about - that might be a shock to you! Sadly, I expanded my interest by signing up for one of his online classes and found that to be simply a money-spinner. The content is shallow, Dr Glover does not give any or at least hardly any of his time to each class , you are set homework in a discussion group that leaves you floundering to decide if you are on the right track or not. Quite pricey and really not necessary - enjoy the book and leave it at that. To your happiness ...

Every husband or BF should make this mandatory reading if you don’t want problems in your life.

Whether people want to admit it or not, there is a difference in perception between the sexes and this book in my opinion, successfully explains why. The book is very repetitive and could have been condensed into one third of its volume. A must read for boys / men who want to find their place in the world. A must read for girls / women who want to explore the contradictory collective mind of society. Highly recommend

Dr. Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy" is a revolutionary book that offers a profound journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Glover's insights into the "Nice Guy Syndrome" are eye-opening, providing readers with a clear understanding of how societal expectations and personal insecurities can lead to self-sabotaging behaviors. The book is not just about identifying the problem but also about offering practical, actionable steps to overcome it. Glover's writing is compassionate and relatable, making it easy for readers to connect with his message. His emphasis on embracing one's true self, setting boundaries, and pursuing personal fulfillment is both empowering and liberating. "No More Mr. Nice Guy" is an invaluable resource for anyone looking to break free from the constraints of people-pleasing and to lead a more authentic and fulfilling life. It is a must-read for those seeking to reclaim their power and live life on their own terms.

I am at a loss for words... What a great resource this book is. Although it is primarily meant for men, I am sure that women too would find it equally valuable. Thank you for your great work Dr Glover.

I am a typical ‘Nice Guy’. In fact I’m the ultimate Nice guy ( thats not a good thing it turns out!) . Im reading this book as i go through my inevitable divorce. I’ve been to therapy over several years and the concepts that they have spoken about are boiled down in simple language and relatable examples in this book. Its tough to see in print and the author encourages you to put the book down, go away and think / act on the changes. Having read this book on kindle Ive ordered a hard copy so i can re read, annotate and make notes. This is an important book to create positive change in resentful unfulfilled’Nice’ guys who are currently repeating the same program that was given to them as children. Good luck chaps.

Some pages had bad printing, sentences were written 2x, double overplayed text

A new my early years were dysfunctional and know some things are wrong today, but I couldn’t figure out the link between both and how to get out of it. This book gives the keys. I suspect it also works for nice girls.

This might easily be one of the best self-help books I have read in a long time. The very basic message of this book is: "Men should stop seeking approval and be exactly who they are". By seeking approval in relationships and at work, and trying to do things right all the time, nice-guys do NOT get what they want. They come across as needy, are stuck in mediocrity and fail to reach their potential in their professional lives. The reasons are straightforward, yet, many men fail to understand. To give a few examples: 1. Men who are needy and seek the approval of women are not sexy 2. Men who want to do everything right in their professional lives often fail to quit a dysfunctional job or ask for a salary increase or promotion 3. Men who focus on the pleasure of their partner while having sex don't get the sex they want (and neither does the partner) Glover outlines the psychological mechanisms behind the "nice-guy" behavior and gives the reader some practical advice, how they can brake through the nice-guy paradigm. It clearly shows that "nice guys" are often not as nice as they seem, as their seeking of approval contains dishonesty, high expectations of other people, and the illusion that if they are nice and do everything right, they will be liked by everybody. Also, they often feel like a victim and don't take their lives into their own hands. I particularly liked the "breaking through activities" that are easy to follow. They include the setting of personal rules, such as: "if it frightens you, do it", "no matter what happens, you will handle it" and "stop blaming. Victims never succeed." To sum up, this book is a fulfilling journey for every man who wants to start working on getting the live he really wants. It is the first step to detaching yourself from the judgments of other people and live a life true to your own values.

Hats off to the Author, very well illustrated on the behaviour patterns of the nice guys. Must read for all the soft and empathetic guys to introspect themselves and come out of the victim mindset to get their needs met.

Eye opening book for any men who think they are nice to others, but still unhappy themselves. If you think “I’m nice and I do the right thing for everyone, so I’m sure things will be great for me soon” this is the book for you. It’s not a book about how to be a jerk, it’s a book about how to be fair with yourself, figure yourself out, and make sense of why you feel stuck in spite of doing all the right things.

Writer is spot on with his observation on this topic. And direct straightforward advice. Good book.

nice book to be bad boy